Infidelity In Marriage As It Affects Us These Days
Our marriages are constantly being confronted with different challenges. Are we finding solutions? Can we say the problems are on the rise or are they reducing? We can only give an answer when we have looked around us at the marriages we have today. We would look at this presently.
I am constantly stumped by this question. Can we say that the problems marriages are facing today are more than those faced by past marriages? The reason I ask this is that infidelity in marriage seems to be on the rise and I can’t help but ask if this is because of the increased challenges marriages now face.
I have taken time to really look into this issue and I still think that marriages today are not necessarily encountering more challenges. I can only say that the way we respond to these challenges have changed.
One thing everyone knows is greatly needed to build a solid marriage is communication. Developing a solid communication with your spouse requires time together. We’ve now arrived at what I consider the main issue. The amount of time we spend in our homes seems insignificant when placed side by side the time spent at our business places. This should easily shed light why many affairs happen with colleagues at work.
The other day while talking with a friend, he mentioned one challenge that marriages now face which I found interesting. A study was carried out and it was found that couples with television sets in their bedrooms had higher chances of having problems. Thinking about it, you should clearly understand the reason. The television offers a choice that distracts one or both spouses so problems aren’t taken care of. If the television weren’t there, the couple might have had no choice but to trash out the issue regardless of how heated things got.
This is only a little example of the current development that might really be blamed for the increased breakups in our marriages. We’re regular in the middle of so much to choose from by way of distractions. The reason why a lot of people are faced with finding how to cope with infidelity is because a spouse saw the affair as another option.
In the past, there were not too many options. People either went to a bar or simply took a walk when upset. Today, you can simply get lost in the internet, social media or television. Can you imagine a couple discussing while one of them is chatting on a social media network? This is a common sight. Is this crazy or what?
Our greatest need today is the will and discipline to regulate our time and set our priorities right. We must begin to have times we turn off our Ipads, televisions etc and simply communicate with our spouses. These devices were made to make our lives easier and not to destroy our marriages.
Anything we do in life is always subject to choices. This includes our marriages. It’s your choice to either create time for your marriage and have a successful one or not to.