Approved ProvenTherapist and Clinical Psychologist
It is usually our own inhibitions; insecurities and a pre conceived image of the self which makes us feel shy, leading to insecurity. A weakness or fear which sets in a feeling of imperfection, causing a dint to the ego or self-image results in insecurity. This self- image makes us vulnerable and we resist or shy away from other situations and people alike. People, especially the youth, go through this phase of insecurity when their ideal- self image clashes with the real-life self or when they experience disappointment too often and too recurring for them to overcome the negative situation. This youth withdraws into a shell and becomes shy or some tend to bury the disappointment with a show of aggression and bullying.
Most of the times, it is either the emotional self or the physical self which causes insecurity. Insecurity pulls down our confidence and self esteem takes a beating. Finding out what the core issue is which is causing the insecurity; it could be physical appearance like complexion, voice or lack of enough money, whatever may be the reason, the beginning to recovery will only come if we pin point the reason which brings in the insecure feeling. Insecurity also creeps in if the person is too set or rigid, inflexible with the way he/she wants to be, look or behave. In real life though, not all goes as planned and the obstinate person invariably faces disappointment and it becomes incredibly difficult to accept oneself; to face reality. Getting rid of this insecurity is many times difficult because acknowledgment comes after a very long time and insecurity being such a personal thing to each one of us; it is tougher to get rid of it. Most of us usually succumb to it, only the brave acknowledge it and seek ways and means to combat insecurity and hope for a free secure life.
Feeling shy about a new place, person or a new event is very natural reaction and it cannot be attributed to inherent shyness. Even a boisterous over confident person senses ‘butterflies in the stomach’ sensation before embarking on anything new. Insecurity stemming out of physical attributes results in shyness and low confidence level with regards to self-image, this batters the emotional levels also to a certain degree, but insecurity which has emotional reasons as it’s trigger results in emotional problems, low self esteem, depression and the like. The second needs to be addressed with a sense of urgency. Self image needs a definite mind shift and a renewed perspective of the self.
To lead a better holistically happy life, the sooner these insecurities are gotten rid of the better for us. Let us look at a few things that can be done differently to b able to overcome insecurity, it is easier said than done, but is imperative if one is determined to make the change:
Acceptance is the first step, learn to accept and like yourself the way you are. You are your own comparison and you are your own parameter. Comparing with anyone else will be futile because no two individuals are made the same way! So how can they behave or be the same? Start by accepting who you are, appreciate yourself and then you will start seeing where improvements can be made. If the beginning itself is rejection and criticism of the self then one can only see faults and imperfections and correcting so much will be an uphill task.
Stop being judgmental and critical about yourself; it only attributes to pulling down the self esteem and seeps in more insecurity. Write one good thing about yourself every day, morning and evening. Take time to look at yourself and see the good in you and why you are special and how you can make these your strengths to overcome your weaknesses.
Every small achievement of yours must first be recognized by you and you deserve a treat for every milestone crossed. Do not listen to what others have to say about you, start listening to yourself. Strictly avoid discouraging company and friends who make you feel bad or low about yourself. Seek out new friends who can teach a few good things without putting you down or being judgmental about you.
The world is a big place and we all have people who find us worthy. It is just when we start feeling worthy about ourselves is when the other person also begins to look at you with an appreciative eye. This in itself is a morale boost and uplifts the confidence levels. Change the image you have of yourself and the world automatically looks at you the way you look at yourself.
This is just the beginning, stick to the task and you are on your way to overcoming insecurity and take on new challenges in life.
A GAME CHANGER
Pat Sumlin, LMFT (DBT Certified Therapist and Clinical Trainer)
DBT is a jump start to a successful way of life. Become a student, open to learning skill building tools that will have an enduring positive impact. Become deliberate and intentional in how you approach everyday challenges. It’s about doing the work necessary to evolve, evaluate situations, elevate oneself and others, feel energized and emancipated, no longer a prisoner to the past. Instead of simply focusing on the headlines of one’s life, it’s about looking at the fine print. The story behind the story and connecting the dots.
The elements of acceptance, change, self-care, growth and healing are built into the over 70 skill building concepts, with the 4 modules; Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation and Interpersonal Effectiveness. Learning DBT is about doing the daily practices necessary to navigate successfully in relationships and avoid being on auto-pilot. DBT offers a fingerprint that uniquely can belong to anyone who learns the skill building tools. Think of it as “Renewal of the Mind.” An active approach to problem solving and decreasing life stressors. DBT is faith and hope in action (energy/effort) that reinstates the natural organizing and communicative functions of emotions. It’s about going from survival to success to significance.
Clients who have successfully learned DBT, did so because they recognized they needed the skills to cope more effectively with one or more of the following issues affecting them personally or within the circumstances in their family:
Abusive Relationships, Academic Struggles, Acculturation, Active Passivity, ADD/ADHD, Adoption, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Alcohol Addiction, Aging, Ambivalence, Anger Management, Anxiety Disorders, Apparent Competence, Asperger’s Syndrome, Bereavement, Betrayal, Binge Eating, Bipolar, Blended Families, Breaking Negative Habits, Body Image, BPD, Bullying, Career Concerns, Caregivers, Celiac Disease, Chronic Pain/Fatigue, Chronic Worry, COPD, Co-dependency, Cognitive Impairments, Communication Breakdown, Confidence Building, Confusion, Court-Ordered Parenting Plan, Co-worker Conflict, Criminal Behavior, Custody Issues, Dating, Death/Dying, Depression, Dermatillomania, Disabilities, Dishonesty, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Drug Addiction, Dual Diagnosis, Dysthymia, Dyslexia, Eating Disorders, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Dysregulation, Empowerment, Emptiness, Empty Nest, Envy, Expressive Language Disorder, Family Conflict, Family of Origin Abuse, Fibromyalgia, Fight/Flight/Freeze, Financial Problems, Gambling Addiction, Gender Identity, Generalized Anxiety, Goal Setting, Gossip, Grief/Loss, Guilt, Hair Loss, Hearing Impairment, HIV+/AIDS, Hoarding, Hopelessness, IBS, Impostor Syndrome, Impulsivity, Inappropriate Social Skills, Indifference, In-laws, Infertility, Infidelity, Inhibited Grieving, Internalized Oppression, Insecurity, Internet Addiction, Insecurity, Invalidation, Isolation, Jealousy, Kleptomania, LGBTQ Issues, Lack of Motivation, Legal Issues, Life Transitions, Lifestyle Choices, Loneliness, Marriage Counseling, Medical Issues, Menopause, Migraines, Military Families,
Mindfulness, Miscarriage, Multiple Sclerosis, Neglect, OCD, Orthorexia, Panic Attacks, Paranoia, Parenting Disputes, Past Treatment Failures, Pathological Lying, Perfectionism, Personal Growth, Personality Disorders, Physical Abuse, PMDD, Pornography, Post-Partum Depression, Pregnancy, Pre-marital Counseling, Procrastination, Psoriasis, PTSD, Re-building Trust, Relationship Reconciliation, Rejection, Retirement Adjustment, Seasonal Affective Disorder, Schizophrenia, Self-Care, Self-Esteem, Self-Injurious Behavior, Sensory Processing Disorder, Sex Addiction, Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexual Orientation, Sleep Disorders, Smoking Cessation, Social Anxiety, Special Needs Child, STD’s, Step-Parenting, Stuttering, Suicidal Ideation, Suicide Survivor, Terminal Illness, Trauma, Trichotillomania, Undeveloped Social Skills, Unrelenting Crisis, Victim of Crime, Visual Impairment, Verbal Abuse, Veterans Re-adjustment, Weight Management, Work/Life Balance, Work Performance, Workplace Harassment.
DBT is recognized as an effective, evidence based highly practical and relevant treatment approach. Achieving a working understanding of the DBT skills disrupts the seesaw of hope and despair. If you’re like most people who are suffering, the answer is a resounding, “Yes” to learning DBT because it has universal appeal, many useful applications such as re-establishing stability, relating better to others, and functioning interdependently. DBT is first-aid for emotional pain. Transform your life today.
Suicidal thoughts and self harming behavior with negative self image and self condemnation need to be tackled… Dialectical Behavior Therapy has answer! Thanks to Pat Sumlin, LMFT, a dedicated ProvenTherapist and DBT expert, for her hard work to initiate this great service at ProvenTherapy.com.
DBT promotes self-efficacy, purpose, meaning and personal power. Gain valuable skills in order to take a bold new approach to living. Learning skills can help you to become healthier and happier. Start on the journey towards an interpersonal lifestyle that works for you vs. against you.
DBT has powerful therapeutic techniques like JADE, RUI, Fight-Flight-Freeze, to name a few. Learning DBT methods will improve confidence and strengthen your ego. Through DBT you will be able to transform your hopelessness into definite HOPE!
At the DBT sessions your Therapist will take you through the practical skills, compiled into 4 modules;
- Distress Tolerance
- Emotion Regulation
- Interpersonal Effectiveness
At ProvenTherapy.com the Dialectical Behavior Therapy Department is headed by Pat Sumlin, LMFT, an experienced DBT Certified Therapist and Clinical Trainer. Visit this page to read more about DBT and therapy process at ProvenTherapy.com.
Here’s an article by Pat on DBT
She is Dr. Sharanya Dinesh now!
One of the experienced ProvenTherapists Sharanya Dinesh gained her Doctoral degree recently, a huge milestone to achieve, a real reward for her hard work and dedication!
Dr. Dinesh did her doctoral thesis in clinical psychology titled Self Awareness in Present Day Adolescents.
The research was done in the metro schools and one Govt school for the poor/under privileged. The sample consisted of 450-500 students and the research inquiry was on emotional, professional, social, financial, spiritual awareness for students from grade 10 to grade 12.
Dr. Sharanya is providing online counseling and psychotherapy through proventherapy.com and also giving face to face therapeutic sessions at her own clinic in India. She is a fan of Khalil Gibran and has been incorporated Gibran’s meditative ideas into her therapy.
Visit Dr. Sharanya Dinesh’s profile page: https://www.proventherapy.com/Sharanya-178.html
|Missouri based Counseling Psychologist joins the ProvenTherapists team. Sandra Vogt is specialized in the treatment of victims of domestic violence and has six years professional experience in the field. Sandra is also specialized in the treatment of depression anxiety, and other mental health disorders. Sandra opened her virtual clinic at ProvenTherapy and is available for online chat, telephone, or email counseling session for potential clients.|
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Welcome to the Team Sandra!
Press Release: 26 Nov. Washington: Nationally recognized and certified Dialectical Behavior Therapist Pat Sumlin, LMFT, has opened her virtual clinic at ProvenTherapy.com, the premier online counseling and psychotherapy portal for troubled hearts and souls.
A licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with fifteen years of trauma-informed clinical experience, her primary theoretical orientation is psycho-dynamic although she has studied extensively the work of object relations/attachment theories, inter-subjectivity and internal family systems.
Dedicated to the advancement of DBT and without hesitation, Pat stated “Dr. Marsha Linehan has had a profound impact on my clinical career”. She admits to owning every publication on DBT and to address the mainstream obstacles for individuals who learn differently, diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and/or Dyslexia, Pat has written a comprehensive DBT guide for clients specifically diagnosed with learning disabilities. She has a reputation for creative and innovative approaches, and is known for advancing the field of film therapy with a substantial list of films to offer her film therapy groups, such as Defending Your Life, Awakening’s and Changing Lanes. Characterized by clients as a “truth teller” and “code breaker” Pat values and emphasizes the importance of diversity, integrity, equality and justice which explains her high regarded clinical competency with vulnerable populations and minority groups.
Devoted to educating clients Pat teaches clients particularly those diagnosed with PTSD about the Middle Path, seeing the world as a neutral place, and balancing acceptance with change. Two of her key messages to clients are how meaningful the present can be and the importance of accepting reality and the consequences of life gracefully.
Pat started her career by working in a homeless shelter and provided clinical daily managerial oversight operations of the mental health/substance abuse treatment/recovery, and after-care clinic for HIV+/AIDS clients.
Not one to shy away from hard work, she went on to develop and manage a DBT program in a large outpatient mental health clinic. Providing an opportunity for clients diagnosed with any number of co-occurring disorders to learn self-management coping skills, she made it possible for over 90 clients annually to benefit from either her individual or group DBT formats.
Press Release: With a strong team of 65 professional therapists ProvenTherapy strives to provide the best quality of care. Dubai based Juni Shrestha is the latest addition to the team of ProvenTherapists on the virtual counseling world.
“When life seems complicated, you can count on ProvenTherapy to guide you to the happier and healthier way of life,” says the new therapist Juni Shrestha. She is very passionate about helping others so that they can lead a happy, healthy and content life. She strongly believes in the importance of first being a strong individual in order to be able to connect with rest of the world.
Being a Juvenile specialist Mrs. Shrestha advocates strongly about raising happy children. She states, “Childhood/
Furthermore, her therapeutic counseling is tailored around client’s individual needs. Even though the backbone of her counseling adheres to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, she also has profound appreciation for Alderian Theory and practices.
Proventherapy have made sure that the concept of ‘Virtual Therapy’ connects to a lot of disturbed people and thus offer online counseling and online psychotherapy services for mental health, marriage, or relationship issues through highly confidential sessions using traditional as well as innovative online counseling methods through live sessions, telephone counseling, and email therapy.
The founders of Proventherapy (www.proventherapy.com) make sure that the customers are comfortable with them and they also make sure the customer is completely out of the problem. The services offered by the founders are:
- Flexible, making sure that the customer can join their therapeutic session from any private place in and moreover wait for sessions to start in a convenient and secure ‘Virtual Waiting Room’.
- Convenient, eliminating the travel time and costs associated with traditional therapies
- Verifiable, making the customer confident that the practitioners on their network are legitimate, highly qualified and ready to assist the customers
- Secure, most importantly the founders offer a secure way of connecting the customer with the therapist by maintaining high confidentiality.
Arthur Belmont, a California based marriage and family therapist joins the team of professionals giving online counseling service through ProvenTherapy.com, one of the leading online counseling and psychotherapy clinic on the Internet.
The virtual online counseling and psychotherapy clinic for mental health, marriage, and relationship problems https://www.ProvenTherapy.com has a team of more than 60 Approved ProvenTherapists extending ‘healing touch to the troubled hearts and souls’ through online counseling and psychotherapy services. The professional therapists provide counseling and psychotherapy support through live chat, telephone, and email methods round the clock, seven days a week. Arthur Belmont, a licensed independant counselor and psychotherapist, is the latest addition to the team of ProvenTherapists who has 18 years of experience in the therapy field.
Arthur H. Belmont is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) who has been practicing psychotherapy since 1995. He received his M.S. degree in Counseling from California State University, Long Beach and his B.A. degree in Communications from Temple University in Philadelphia. Arthur is currently practicing in San Diego, California and maintains his licensure in both Florida and California.