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Leeza S. Dillip – Approved ProvenTherapist

Leeza S. Dillip

“What is this life if, full of care

We have no time to stand and stare.”

William Henry Davis “Leisure”

Life today, is so fast-paced, challenging, complex and full of ups and downs. Do you remember the last time you laughed heartily, spent memorable times with your loved ones, jumped with joy or cried like a child, looked at the beautiful sunset or spun stories watching floating clouds? Most of us would be trying to answer these questions. We may have conquered many milestones in terms of education, profession, materialistic pursuits and so on. But, deep within our emotional sensitiveness is becoming shallow.

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Life manifests itself in varied ways. Some moments impart a lot of happiness and positive aspects. While some instances render us hopeless and helpless. Loss of a loved one, transitions in life, daily stress, depression, break ups, emotional pains, anger and agonies, failure and frustrations, mood swings and confusion, chaos and loss…there are manifold ways in which life hits you hard and makes it unbearable. Under these circumstances it is very hard to find a support system, a shoulder to lean on, a person who can understand you pains in a non-judgmental manner and one who can show you the way out of all these challenges and pains.

If you are someone who is struggling with the ebb and tide of life, if situations are literally churning you up and if you are becoming a prey to mental health issues…we, at ProvenTherapy are dedicated to hold your hand and show you the path out of all the atrocities you are facing.

ProvenTherapy is like a Multi-specialty and Super-specialty health set up. With more than 100 specialized counselors, therapists and life coaches, ProvenTherapy is a pioneer in the field of Online Counselling. You can find different therapists specialized in different areas of life skills, mental health, therapy and healing…..all at a single place. Here are some of the hallmarks of ProvenTherapy:

  • Highly Qualified and experienced counselors and therapists
  • 24/7 online counselling and therapy support through live chat, emails, etc
  • Multi-specialized professionals to help you in dealing with your problems
  • Your privacy, security, confidentiality and dignity are never breached
  • Empathetic understanding of your pains and showing you varied ways of dealing with them
  • Extensive and intensive assessment, diagnosis, treatment, counselling and follow-up systems so that all your problems are treated in a wholesome manner
  • Flexible timings, user-friendly set up, easy to access and sign up, economic and less time consuming
  • Additional services also can be accessed free of cost. Like: Forums, therapist forums, blogs, therapeutic articles and videos and much more.

ProvenTherapy is not just a website full of words; it is a world full of well-meaning people who are dedicated to help you and to take you out of the overwhelming problems that you are facing. We, at ProvenTherapy await your arrival to facilitate your health, happiness and overall well-being.

Whose Children?

Sharanya Dinesh

Approved ProvenTherapist

Sharanya Dinesh - ProvenTherapist Khalil Gibran is my favorite poet and philosopher; this is what he wrote about children:‘Your children are not your children.They are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself.

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Your children are temporarily in your custody and you are their guardian and care taker. You have no ownership rights over them because they are owned by God and He has sent them to accomplish a goal or a purpose unique to them. Life called out for them and here they are, as your children in name and form but His children in verity. The animals and the birds seem to understand this philosophy much better than the intelligent human race. The lioness feeds the cub and simultaneously encourages the cub to fend for itself. The chicks are also urged to fly and gather twigs from a very young age. We humans keep missing this fine point somehow.They come through you but not from you,And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.He again says, they come from you; yes, you do give birth to them, yet they are from Him alone and not from you, which is what most parents mistakenly take claim for. The children stay with us as long as it is destined and not a single moment beyond that. They are with us but they do not belong to us; they are definitely not the personal property of parents.You may give them your love but not your thoughts,For they have their own thoughts.Again so true, did we, as children think like our parents? Did we not have different thoughts, dreams, aspirations and ambitions? Did we not wait for the day when we would be able to live ‘our’ life, the way we want to, without being told, what to do, what to eat, what to wear and a seamless stream of instructions? If that was generation gap then, should not the gap be more gaping and wider now? Times have changed very dramatically over the last 2 decades and with it a very tumultuous parent age has arrived. Love is scarce or showered as a return gift for something well done or withheld as punishment at times. The present day children are facing more insecure times, it is all the more important that we shower as much love as we can on them and give them the freedom of thought. Raise them such that they are free with discipline and love.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.  Healthy Parenting
Almost every child achieves much more than what their parents did. They belong to the tomorrow and have to learn from today, whereas we belong to a yesterday, trying to adjust to today for a better tomorrow. We are yet to get a grip over the way times have changed, whereas they are already of this generation. They are planning and dreaming of a tomorrow which we may never see. Is it fair to drag them backwards in time, to our times and force them to think our way, do our way, live our way? We can be like the lamp post guiding and throwing light on the path, we cannot walk that path though. They have to walk their own path and discover their destiny.You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

I initially never agreed with this line, why should the parents be like the children? My parents always wanted me to emulate either one of them and that is exactly what I have done. So why should my son (I need to remember, he is HIS son, not mine) not emulate his Dad or me? Why should we not ask him to try and become like his father or mother? The next line has the answer though; because, life has never gone backwards and time does not wait or depend on a yesterday. It is today and then tomorrow. I woke up to the fact that if I expect my son to become like his father or me, I would be asking him to move backwards, live in a yesterday. As a parent I should be asking him to look at his tomorrow, move on the road ahead and achieve his dreams. Is it fair on my part to ask him to live my unaccomplished dreams and achievements?

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The parents are the bows from which the children of God as living arrows are set forth in search of their destiny.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

The archer or God has already marked the path over which the arrow, the child, will fly. God simply wants that the Bow, parents, also to bend, yield, string themselves just so much so that the arrow, child, can reach its destined goal. It is the strength of the bow and the flexibility of the string which allows the archer to set forth the arrow swift and far.

Let you bending in the Archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,

So He loves also the bow that is stable. ’

One without the other is incomplete and God loves both equally. He has assigned us the job of taking care of His children and entrusted us with the big responsibility of raising them happily and with joy. Bend yield listen to the child and nourish them with love and joy, God does send forth His children through you and is happy to see them ascend, but He also loves the stable hand of the parent which joyfully raises its offspring.

As a child counselor by profession I am forced to read this poem to every parent because they all invariably expect me, the counselor, to change the mindset of the child. They look me at me very expectantly as if I can wave a magic wand and their errant child will start obeying them or start behaving the way they expect the child to behave.