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Many assume that New Year’s Eve is anticipated by most with a sense of celebration, enthusiasm, joyful anticipation and excitement, yet I have found that for a large percentage of the population this simply is not true! Client’s have repeatedly asked, “is something wrong with me because I don’t like New Years Eve? I don’t feel like celebrating; I feel sad and depressed.”
If you find yourself among those who suffer from the New Years Eve Blues, let me suggest that nothing is wrong with you!
These may be a couple of the reasons to explain why you feel as you do:
- Human beings are creatures of habit, and sense a familiarity with the year that’s ending. We’re uncomfortable with change and have the illusion we know what to expect from the year we’re about to lose. Change and uncertainty lay ahead creating a sense of anxiety, even dread, for some.
- The preparation and anticipation of the holiday season is over leaving others with a feeling of let down, much like the ending of a long awaited vacation.
Perhaps knowing that you are among a large group of like minded people will ease some of your discomfort this New Years Eve, and as you do absolutely nothing to celebrate, you will allow yourself to feel just fine about that!!
Press Release: Diane Davis is a Licensed, trained, experienced and accredited Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and member of The American Psychological Association. She is a new member of the qualified and approved ProvenTherapists team.
Diane has been practicing mental and behavioral health counseling to individuals, couples, children, adolescents and families dealing with issues such as depression, anger, relationship conflicts and disruptive behavior disorders. Diane has counseled middle school adolescents for 15 years, while helping their parents also. She has worked as an individual and family therapist for 5 years and an administrative for more than 10 years in family counseling agency settings.
Diane is a person-centered counselor. She is a caring, understanding, respectful, empathic and non judgmental professional counselor. Diane is empathically interested in all the clients she counsels and is congruent in the relation to the client. Diane deeply focuses on the client so that she may gain a deep understanding of their inner world. This is a very powerful technique that allows the client to open up his or her inner world, discuss the problem that brought client to therapy and to bring about effective change behavior. Diane practices Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) a powerful intervention that enhances clients to transform their thought process that will change behavior to improve self-concept, social relations be it at home, school and community.
Diane believes that the World Wide Web is destining to help change depression and destruction behaviors. Online counseling, live text and live voice chat is the twenty first century’s professional mental health counseling intervention services. These services are offered by https://www.proventherapy.com by email and real-time chat. Research shows that online counseling has established the efficacy of therapy with treatment intervention outcomes that is equal to traditional to office visits. Many researchers have reported online counseling is more effective than office visits because the client is at home, relaxed, at ease and not intimidated by sitting in front of a therapist. Online counseling has shown to be more effective since clients do not have to reach the appointment during office hours and can schedule online at their own convenience.https://www.proventherapy.com has been providing online counseling and psychotherapy service since 2006.
Approved ProvenTherapist and Clinical Psychologist
It is usually our own inhibitions; insecurities and a pre conceived image of the self which makes us feel shy, leading to insecurity. A weakness or fear which sets in a feeling of imperfection, causing a dint to the ego or self-image results in insecurity. This self- image makes us vulnerable and we resist or shy away from other situations and people alike. People, especially the youth, go through this phase of insecurity when their ideal- self image clashes with the real-life self or when they experience disappointment too often and too recurring for them to overcome the negative situation. This youth withdraws into a shell and becomes shy or some tend to bury the disappointment with a show of aggression and bullying.
Most of the times, it is either the emotional self or the physical self which causes insecurity. Insecurity pulls down our confidence and self esteem takes a beating. Finding out what the core issue is which is causing the insecurity; it could be physical appearance like complexion, voice or lack of enough money, whatever may be the reason, the beginning to recovery will only come if we pin point the reason which brings in the insecure feeling. Insecurity also creeps in if the person is too set or rigid, inflexible with the way he/she wants to be, look or behave. In real life though, not all goes as planned and the obstinate person invariably faces disappointment and it becomes incredibly difficult to accept oneself; to face reality. Getting rid of this insecurity is many times difficult because acknowledgment comes after a very long time and insecurity being such a personal thing to each one of us; it is tougher to get rid of it. Most of us usually succumb to it, only the brave acknowledge it and seek ways and means to combat insecurity and hope for a free secure life.
Feeling shy about a new place, person or a new event is very natural reaction and it cannot be attributed to inherent shyness. Even a boisterous over confident person senses ‘butterflies in the stomach’ sensation before embarking on anything new. Insecurity stemming out of physical attributes results in shyness and low confidence level with regards to self-image, this batters the emotional levels also to a certain degree, but insecurity which has emotional reasons as it’s trigger results in emotional problems, low self esteem, depression and the like. The second needs to be addressed with a sense of urgency. Self image needs a definite mind shift and a renewed perspective of the self.
To lead a better holistically happy life, the sooner these insecurities are gotten rid of the better for us. Let us look at a few things that can be done differently to b able to overcome insecurity, it is easier said than done, but is imperative if one is determined to make the change:
Acceptance is the first step, learn to accept and like yourself the way you are. You are your own comparison and you are your own parameter. Comparing with anyone else will be futile because no two individuals are made the same way! So how can they behave or be the same? Start by accepting who you are, appreciate yourself and then you will start seeing where improvements can be made. If the beginning itself is rejection and criticism of the self then one can only see faults and imperfections and correcting so much will be an uphill task.
Stop being judgmental and critical about yourself; it only attributes to pulling down the self esteem and seeps in more insecurity. Write one good thing about yourself every day, morning and evening. Take time to look at yourself and see the good in you and why you are special and how you can make these your strengths to overcome your weaknesses.
Every small achievement of yours must first be recognized by you and you deserve a treat for every milestone crossed. Do not listen to what others have to say about you, start listening to yourself. Strictly avoid discouraging company and friends who make you feel bad or low about yourself. Seek out new friends who can teach a few good things without putting you down or being judgmental about you.
The world is a big place and we all have people who find us worthy. It is just when we start feeling worthy about ourselves is when the other person also begins to look at you with an appreciative eye. This in itself is a morale boost and uplifts the confidence levels. Change the image you have of yourself and the world automatically looks at you the way you look at yourself.
This is just the beginning, stick to the task and you are on your way to overcoming insecurity and take on new challenges in life.
|Missouri based Counseling Psychologist joins the ProvenTherapists team. Sandra Vogt is specialized in the treatment of victims of domestic violence and has six years professional experience in the field. Sandra is also specialized in the treatment of depression anxiety, and other mental health disorders. Sandra opened her virtual clinic at ProvenTherapy and is available for online chat, telephone, or email counseling session for potential clients.|
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