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Leeza S. Dillip opens Counseling Services at ProvenTherapy.com. She is experienced in alternative therapies like Yoga, Pranic Healing, Crystal Ball therapy, Handwriting Analysis, Art therapy, Colour therapy, etc.
Leeza was excited while opening her service at ProvenTherapy.com, “Life is always filled with manifold twists and turns. So anyone can fall a prey to different problems due to this muddle. Today many of us struggle in the silent yet strong shackles of stress, tensions, depression, relationship problems, job-related issues, adolescent and age related problems, marriage and family crisis, and other clinical-psychological ailments. At the same time a fast-paced lifestyle, personal issues and other difficulties become a hindrance in the path and process of treatment. Given to all these hitches, ProvenTherapy brings the best solution to one and all. It is the best breakthrough avenue in the world of Online Counseling, which interested me to join hands with the experienced therapists in the site.”
https://www.proventherapy.com is one of the most popular online counselling options today. Adorned by more than 80 qualified and experienced therapists far and wide the globe, ProvenTherapy has helped many people to successfully overcome their problems and agonies. With the provision of online text chat and online voice chat, proven therapy has not only made a mark in online counseling but also many areas related to psychotherapy and healing. The qualified professionals work 24/7 in order to provide quality services, online counseling and psychotherapy to the “troubld hearts and souls”. Leeza S. Dillip, an Indian Clinical Counselor and Alternative Therapist, is the recent addition to the ProvenTherapists team.
With a dream and passion to help people and those suffering from mental health issues, Leeza has achieved many milestones in the field of face-to-face counseling, online counseling and psychotherapy. With an experience of almost 8 yrs Leeza S. Dillip has excelled in the fields of Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Behaviour therapy, Client-centered counseling, Family therapy, marital/relationship therapy, therapies for problems and issues related to all age-groups and cross-culture. Her experience and practice in spiritual healing, alternative techniques like Yoga, meditation, naturopathy, crystal ball healing, pranic healing, acupressure, color therapy and handwriting analysis gives her therapy procedures the kind of holistic dimension that is necessary for the all-round sound health and development of an individual.
Recent study shows that the brain can be trained in compassion!
A new study by researchers at the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the Waisman Center of the University of Wisconsin-Madison shows that adults can be trained to be more compassionate. The report, published Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, investigates whether training adults in compassion can result in greater altruistic behavior and related changes in neural systems underlying compassion.
“Our fundamental question was, ‘Can compassion be trained and learned in adults? Can we become more caring if we practice that mindset?'” says Helen Weng, lead author of the study and a graduate student in clinical psychology. “Our evidence points to yes.”
In the study, the investigators trained young adults to engage in compassion meditation, an ancient Buddhist technique to increase caring feelings for people who are suffering. In the meditation, participants envisioned a time when someone has suffered and then practiced wishing that his or her suffering was relieved. They repeated phrases to help them focus on compassion such as, “May you be free from suffering. May you have joy and ease.”
Participants practiced with different categories of people, first starting with a loved one, someone whom they easily felt compassion for, like a friend or family member. Then, they practiced compassion for themselves and, then, a stranger. Finally, they practiced compassion for someone they actively had conflict with called the “difficult person,” such as a troublesome coworker or roommate.
“It’s kind of like weight training,” Weng says. “Using this systematic approach, we found that people can actually build up their compassion ‘muscle’ and respond to others’ suffering with care and a desire to help.”
Compassion training was compared to a control group that learned cognitive reappraisal, a technique where people learn to reframe their thoughts to feel less negative. Both groups listened to guided audio instructions over the Internet for 30 minutes per day for two weeks. “We wanted to investigate whether people could begin to change their emotional habits in a relatively short period of time,” says Weng.
The real test of whether compassion could be trained was to see if people would be willing to be more altruistic – even helping people they had never met. The research tested this by asking the participants to play a game in which they were given the opportunity to spend their own money to respond to someone in need (called the “Redistribution Game”). They played the game over the Internet with two anonymous players, the “Dictator” and the “Victim.” They watched as the Dictator shared an unfair amount of money (only $1 out of $10) with the Victim. They then decided how much of their own money to spend (out of $5) in order to equalize the unfair split and redistribute funds from the Dictator to the Victim.
“We found that people trained in compassion were more likely to spend their own money altruistically to help someone who was treated unfairly than those who were trained in cognitive reappraisal,” Weng says.
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It is usually our own inhibitions; insecurities and a pre conceived image of the self which makes us feel shy, leading to insecurity. A weakness or fear which sets in a feeling of imperfection, causing a dint to the ego or self-image results in insecurity. This self- image makes us vulnerable and we resist or shy away from other situations and people alike. People, especially the youth, go through this phase of insecurity when their ideal- self image clashes with the real-life self or when they experience disappointment too often and too recurring for them to overcome the negative situation. This youth withdraws into a shell and becomes shy or some tend to bury the disappointment with a show of aggression and bullying.
Most of the times, it is either the emotional self or the physical self which causes insecurity. Insecurity pulls down our confidence and self esteem takes a beating. Finding out what the core issue is which is causing the insecurity; it could be physical appearance like complexion, voice or lack of enough money, whatever may be the reason, the beginning to recovery will only come if we pin point the reason which brings in the insecure feeling. Insecurity also creeps in if the person is too set or rigid, inflexible with the way he/she wants to be, look or behave. In real life though, not all goes as planned and the obstinate person invariably faces disappointment and it becomes incredibly difficult to accept oneself; to face reality. Getting rid of this insecurity is many times difficult because acknowledgment comes after a very long time and insecurity being such a personal thing to each one of us; it is tougher to get rid of it. Most of us usually succumb to it, only the brave acknowledge it and seek ways and means to combat insecurity and hope for a free secure life.
Feeling shy about a new place, person or a new event is very natural reaction and it cannot be attributed to inherent shyness. Even a boisterous over confident person senses ‘butterflies in the stomach’ sensation before embarking on anything new. Insecurity stemming out of physical attributes results in shyness and low confidence level with regards to self-image, this batters the emotional levels also to a certain degree, but insecurity which has emotional reasons as it’s trigger results in emotional problems, low self esteem, depression and the like. The second needs to be addressed with a sense of urgency. Self image needs a definite mind shift and a renewed perspective of the self.
To lead a better holistically happy life, the sooner these insecurities are gotten rid of the better for us. Let us look at a few things that can be done differently to b able to overcome insecurity, it is easier said than done, but is imperative if one is determined to make the change:
Acceptance is the first step, learn to accept and like yourself the way you are. You are your own comparison and you are your own parameter. Comparing with anyone else will be futile because no two individuals are made the same way! So how can they behave or be the same? Start by accepting who you are, appreciate yourself and then you will start seeing where improvements can be made. If the beginning itself is rejection and criticism of the self then one can only see faults and imperfections and correcting so much will be an uphill task.
Stop being judgmental and critical about yourself; it only attributes to pulling down the self esteem and seeps in more insecurity. Write one good thing about yourself every day, morning and evening. Take time to look at yourself and see the good in you and why you are special and how you can make these your strengths to overcome your weaknesses.
Every small achievement of yours must first be recognized by you and you deserve a treat for every milestone crossed. Do not listen to what others have to say about you, start listening to yourself. Strictly avoid discouraging company and friends who make you feel bad or low about yourself. Seek out new friends who can teach a few good things without putting you down or being judgmental about you.
The world is a big place and we all have people who find us worthy. It is just when we start feeling worthy about ourselves is when the other person also begins to look at you with an appreciative eye. This in itself is a morale boost and uplifts the confidence levels. Change the image you have of yourself and the world automatically looks at you the way you look at yourself.
This is just the beginning, stick to the task and you are on your way to overcoming insecurity and take on new challenges in life.
Suicidal thoughts and self harming behavior with negative self image and self condemnation need to be tackled… Dialectical Behavior Therapy has answer! Thanks to Pat Sumlin, LMFT, a dedicated ProvenTherapist and DBT expert, for her hard work to initiate this great service at ProvenTherapy.com.
DBT promotes self-efficacy, purpose, meaning and personal power. Gain valuable skills in order to take a bold new approach to living. Learning skills can help you to become healthier and happier. Start on the journey towards an interpersonal lifestyle that works for you vs. against you.
DBT has powerful therapeutic techniques like JADE, RUI, Fight-Flight-Freeze, to name a few. Learning DBT methods will improve confidence and strengthen your ego. Through DBT you will be able to transform your hopelessness into definite HOPE!
At the DBT sessions your Therapist will take you through the practical skills, compiled into 4 modules;
- Distress Tolerance
- Emotion Regulation
- Interpersonal Effectiveness
At ProvenTherapy.com the Dialectical Behavior Therapy Department is headed by Pat Sumlin, LMFT, an experienced DBT Certified Therapist and Clinical Trainer. Visit this page to read more about DBT and therapy process at ProvenTherapy.com.
Here’s an article by Pat on DBT
Communicating with your younger ones about your mental health
|The Dilemma of CommunicationMental health patients, in general, do not confide with their children that they were in a psychiatric unit during the past few days or weeks. Instead, they prefer to give some other excuses for being away from the family home. This may be due to their own worries around children becoming over anxious about parents, or their own inability to accept that they are mentally ill, or their own anxieties around the social stigma attached to mental illness among the communities or may be their own fear of being excluded from the crowd.|
Understandably the mental health patients do not want to ‘shock’ their children with the news that they have a diagnosed psychiatric disorder for which they are on treatment.
If you are suffering from mental health difficulties you need to reflect on this very seriously. Is it good to tell your kids about your mental health difficulties? Or would you prefer to keep it with yourself? Or is it still a dilemma?
Playing Hide and Seek
It is easy to play hide and seek. But it is not easy to keep a secret from others eternally. If you don’t tell your children that you are having difficulties around your mental health, someone else will tell them the fact, and very often the reported version would be an exaggerated one than the fact. When someone else tells them that you are mentally ill and they did see you in the psychiatric unit or they saw you visiting the day clinic, it is possible that your children will start thinking why you didn’t tell them. This will only increase their anxiety around how serious the issue is.
Playing hide and seek will always leave room for further doubts. When your children do not have direct information, they will start guessing, which might lead to increased levels of anxiety. Telling the truth might raise some doubts in their minds, but may not be as bad as getting a shocking story from a third party. Moreover, when they see you telling your story, they are getting first hand information and they clearly see you talking to them in real terms, which is more reassuring that you are aware of your difficulties and you are taking steps to deal with it.
The Fair Play
Children, when they are in trouble, look towards parents for support. They seek energy from parents. However, when they get the message that their parent is suffering from mental health disorder they would prefer not to approach you for support or energy, for they understand that their parent is struggling without energy. In other words, they know that the energy reservoir is empty, so there is no point approaching you!
However, when parents disclose their own mental health difficulties with the children they are giving them the positive message that mental health disorder is just like any other medical condition that could be treated with medical and therapeutic support. So, you are making them confident that you are an adult and you know how to manage your difficulties with available support. In this way you are giving the positive message that you are seeking support when you have some difficulties, and in the same way your children could very well approach you for support when they have difficulties. So, it is always good to be straight forward!
Addendum: Some young children develop self blaming for the mental health difficulties of their parent. They might believe that their behavior caused this mental health difficulty to their parent. This self condemnation could be psychologically damaging to them. So, it is important for the children to know that their parents’ mental health disorder is due to their own troubled thinking and it is not caused by anyone else. They also need to be reassured that medication and supportive counseling will fix this and parents are seeking help in this regard.